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This blog is a resource for fellow therapists, parents and teachers. I will provide suggestions and reviews of books that I have found especially therapeutic and useful for various social-emotional issues.  And...my favorite part...I will provide accompanying activities related to the book to help with teaching social-emotional skills.

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If At First You Don't Succeed, Try, Try Again!

11/15/2021

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A Book Review of Bella's Recipe for Success

Bella's Recipe for Success
Written by: Ana Siqueira
Illustrated by: Geraldine Rodríguez
Published by: Beaming Books

​This month I am reviewing another gem written by one of my talented critique partners, Ana Siqueira. It is an inter-generational story with Spanish language sprinkled throughout. The illustrator, Geraldine Rodríguez, with her large, colorful illustrations, brings the Latinx characters to life! This story is universal, as it normalizes the struggles of learning new skills and the accompanying feelings of discouragement that can ensue. It reinforces the Growth Mindset taught in many schools on the importance of practice and persistence. 
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Bella, the main character, upon witnessing the special skills of her siblings, searches for her own strengths. However, after half-hearted attempts at gymnastics and piano-her sibling's skills-she comes up empty. Then she decides that maybe baking is an area in which she can excel, like her abuela (grandmother). After much frustration and discouragement with her baking attempts, she persists. In fact, she tries so many times that I'm pretty sure she ran out of vanilla in the process! And with a nice touch by the illustrator, she made a major flour mess along the way (that I can totally relate to!). Eventually, Bella gets the recipe just right and all of her practice is rewarded with delicious cookies (oops, until she trips on the cat and they go flying across the room!). 

Through this story, Ms. Siqueira highlights the universal lapses of self-confidence that touches all of us from time to time. When we see others' successes, we may become discouraged, or even a little envious. Sometimes it seems that a certain skill comes easy for another person. We don't see the grit and hard work that the person plowed through to get to that skill level. But, if you've lived long enough, you know that nothing in this world comes easily. Everything takes hard work and lots of practice, which is the message of the book. 

Although, let's face it, even though EVERYTHING takes practice, we all do have strengths and  weaknesses (or challenges). These are based on heredity, innate neurological functioning and/or early learning experiences. Certain skills may come a little easier for us than other skills. To borrow wisdom from abuela in the book, "We're all good at different things." As a side note, I especially love the value placed on the wisdom and experience of the abuela in the story, which in our culture of technology has become undervalued.

While reading about Bella, I thought of the many kids I have encountered in my practice. Many of whom have experienced more than their fair share of defeat in life. That defeat may be due to their family circumstances, physical disabilities, mental health challenges or learning disabilities. Therefore, the themes raised in this book may become more pronounced for them, as their self-esteem has suffered. The common response of many of these children when confronted with a challenge often is "I can't." Therefore, this book would be especially helpful in these circumstances. 


Often kids with learning disabilities, for example, compare themselves to other students in their class and  feel inadequate. When working with these kids, I encourage them to explore their own strengths instead of dwelling on their challenges. For example, maybe reading is difficult for you, but you have a real science mind. Maybe you struggle with math, but you are a great soccer player. Maybe you don't walk well due to your disability, but you are a reading whiz. Maybe you struggle with paying attention, but you have amazing art skills. Maybe you lose your temper  easily, but you have a great sense of humor. 

A general idea on how I present this concept to kids is as follows: 

Some parts of our brains (challenges) don't work as well as other parts (strengths). So, those challenge parts have to depend on other parts of the brain to kick in and help. I refer to those helpers in the brain as "brain buddies." In order to get the "brain buddies" to work together, it takes much extra work and time, and can be frustrating. But, many skills that are hard for us are very important. So, we can't let the "brain buddies" give up. When we practice, we cheer on the "brain buddies!"

However, other parts of our brain, our strengths, work well and don't have to rely on the 'brain        buddies' to help out. Those things still require much practice, but maybe aren't as frustrating to master.


Displayed below, is a project using the above concept. This works well with kids that struggle with defeat. It is a perfect accompaniment to this book. 


Bella's Recipe for Success is about hope. Hope in our abiities to accomplish things and confidence in our abilities to contribute to the world in some way. Our mental health depends on this!

If you'd like to try your own hand at baking, Bella's special ethnic recipe is included at the back of the book! To purchase this book and to check out upcoming books by the author, Ana Siqueira, click here. 

An Activity Idea for Bella's Recipe for Success

First of all, of course make the polvorones from the recipe in the book. You can snack on those while doing the project below! Remember, if you mess them up the first time, try, try again!

In this month's project, we are going to talk about our own challenges and strengths, and draw them in our brain. Then, we are going to make warm and fuzzy "brain buddies" to help out with our challenges when needed. The "brain buddies" represent other parts of the brain that we need to access to help the part of the brain that is struggling. This is especially helpful for kids with learning problems. This project helps demonstrate why learning some skills is harder and takes longer to master than others. And, of course, to normalize the fact that we all have our challenges and strengths. Enjoy!
Materials needed: 
-Brain template- print out here
-Markers
-Glue
-Fuzzy craft balls
-Googly eyes
Directions:
1. Discuss with the child his/her challenges and strengths: Make a list. 
It's helpful to share your own to normalize
that everyone has both. 

2. Make brain buddies together
Discuss that these are the helpers in the brain for the challenges; 
​Glue eyes to five fuzzy balls; Let dry


















3. Have the child choose a color marker for his/her strengths and another for his/her challenges.

4. On the brain diagram using only the color marker for challenges, draw pictures of or write the child's challenges (it's best to do challenges first, so you end on a positive note with strengths!) 



5. With the strength color marker, draw or write the child's strengths. 

6. After everything is drawn, ask the child which ones are his challenges and draw flags with a red marker next to all of the challenges. 




7. Ask the child when he usually needs help from the "brain buddies" and have him/her surround that area with the buddies. 

8. Discuss all of the skills and ask if he/she needs help from the brain buddies for each.




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​9. Discuss how it takes time for the brain buddies to see the red flags and to work together to come to that area of the brain to help. That's why those skills take longer to learn and may be more frustrating. You have to engage the brain buddies and sometimes they are traveling from all the way on the other side of the brain, or are tired and move slowly, or are on a lunch break!

​When we are working at mastering a new skill that is difficult for us, we need to cheer them on. C'mon Brain Buddies!!




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